Grandpa’s Funeral

Grandpa’s Funeral

When I started this blog, the idea was just to send out some little stories to the kids and grandkids so they could stay up to date on family lore. There are only so many family stories available, so I began including other things that interested me. Today’s story is about more of the family stuff I’ve got. I hope everyone finds it interesting.

My granddad, Albert Adelbert Thomas, died in March of 1960. Grandpa was one of 11 children, and he and grandma had seven children of their own. We expected a lot of relatives to show up for the funeral. On the day of the funeral, my dad and mom and sister, Sylvia, and I went to Grandma and Grandpa’s house to greet the incoming relatives and help Grandma.

Grandma and Grandpa’s seven children were Walter, Grant, June, Francis, Joe, Albert Allen, and Ruth. Grant was in WWI and was gassed by the German’s. This ruined his health and he died just a couple of years after the war. I’ll tell you a little bit about the siblings and Grandma now.

GRANDMA: Grandma was sweet, kind, and always pleasant to be around. A couple of days after the funeral, I was trying to console her. She said, “Don’t worry about it, Davey. I’ll be gone before Memorial Day.” And she was.

WALTER: Walter came to the funeral with his son, Victor, who was a grown man, and played in a band or orchestra in Wichita. Walter lived and worked in Wichita until he decided to move to Missouri. He became the center of attention when he announced that he and his good friend in Missouri had swapped wives.

JUNE: June and her daughter, Virginia, came to the funeral from Massachusetts. June was a pleasant lady. Virginia was a deaf/mute person, and because of that, June had become a teacher of the deaf. Virginia was a very nice young lady, and Sylvia and I learned to communicate with her with no problem.

FRANCIS: Francis came to the funeral with one grown child and two children that were Sylvia and my age. Her fourth child, Tommy, a grown man, was a trucker. The grown lady, Kathleen, was a pretty red-head. We didn’t see the younger children, David and Patty, until 45 years later. In 1995, Dave was a retired motorcycle cop. Patty had some kind of a health condition. The morning of the funeral, Tommy drove up in his truck with the auto-transport attached. He had just delivered a load of new Chevrolets from the factory in Kansas City. Some years later, we heard that he had become a Kansas state assemblyman.

JOE: Joe lived in Emporia and was in the freight-transfer business. Later, he owned a Yellow Van Lines franchise. Pat and I hired the Thomas Van Lines/Yellow Van Lines to move us to Texas. Joe had three sons, Kenneth, Keith, and J.P. Keith joined the Navy just before the end of WWII in 1945 and was stationed in Long Beach, CA. Keith was a body builder and worked out with Jack LaLanne, the famous muscle man. Keith also tried out for the part of Tarzan in the movies. We were told that he didn’t make it because he didn’t swim well enough.

ALBERT ALLEN: Albert was my dad. For several years, he worked at the Mobil Refinery. Then he went out on his own as a bricklayer. I remember the day when he came home, so proud, and announced that he had given himself a raise in pay. He said that for the first time he would be making $5,000/year.

RUTH: We saw Ruth and her husband, Don, frequently over the years. They lived in Augusta, and Ruth was a schoolteacher driving to El Dorado every day. Don worked at the Mobil Refinery. In the 1990’s, after Ruth had died, Pat and I visited Don in his assisted-living apartment. When we got there, Don, who was 100 years old, was busy checking stock prices on his computer.

Dave Thomas

October 15,2026

Tail Wags Dog

Once a week, my wife, Pat, and her friend, Judy, drive up Highway 101 from San Diego to Oceanside. The compelling reason for using 101 rather than I-5 is the Pacific Ocean. When the sky is cloudless and blue, the ocean is blue and has white caps decorating the tips of the waves.

Pat and Judy like to stop at one of the mom-and-pop cafes or restaurants for breakfast and then continue to the shopping spots in the Carlsbad area. Parts of this wonderful ride and experience are being destroyed by the re-striping of Highway 101 to create bike lanes. This is a case of the tail wagging the dog and is a bad idea. How many cyclists per capita are there in the United States? Better yet, how many cyclists per capita are there in San Diego County? How many of these people will be in this new bike lane at given time? The auto traffic during the day may consist of L.A. residents down here for a getaway day, UPS, FedEx, electricians, plumbers, etc.  In some areas, one auto traffic lane will be lost due to obstacles-whether natural or manmade (such as a bike lane). This will cause some serious lumps in the flow. Also, some businesses may suffer and need to close as parking spots can be lost for bike lanes. How much will that cost the city in lost retail revenue?

This isn’t just a local problem. You may live near the beach, in the farmlands, or in the mountains. Bicycles, electric bicycles, and electric scooters may cause safety problems for pedestrians and the general public. I understand that designated bike lanes can be a good safety measure but shouldn’t be installed without due diligence regarding overall traffic volume and consideration of the impact on retail shops. The city budget must be considered as well. How much does the installation cost in addition to the possible loss of retail taxes?

I took bikes and electric bikes until I was 74 years old and have no axe to grind. I’m just not sure that the bike lanes on 101 were the best idea.

Dave Thomas

10/8/2026

Neither Melted nor Homogenized

Neither Melted nor Homogenized

We Americans like to proclaim that our country is a melting pot.  People come to us from all over the world and are assimilated with ease and are welcomed. The reality is that people come here and are swallowed up by factions. They don’t become part of the whole.

People come here and are forced to simply choose to hide under labels. There are Native Americans, Mexican Americans, Irish Americans, Chinese Americans, Italian Americans, and on and on. Most of my people came from England, but I don’t call myself English American. A few of them came from Germany, but I don’t call myself a “German American” or a “Mostly English American.” The label thing ruins the melting pot idea by adding different alignments in thoughts and beliefs. Why can’t we all just be “Americans?”  If you recall, we left our home countries looking for something better. Going back to the label business, one of the ugliest is “white supremacy.” Having white skin doesn’t make you better than anyone else. Intellect, character and tolerance don’t reside within the skin. They are functions of brain and soul. Think about it.

When it comes to the melting pot, we could all do a little better. It would be great if we could drop the labels from our vocabulary.

Dave Thomas

10/1/2026